i have a small world

"Daughter, we need to care for small animals. There is nothing wrong with you liking dolphins, but don't let dolphins lose their freedom for your own preferences. For human beings, freedom is very important, but, correspondingly, freedom is important to For those dolphins, it is also very important.

Maybe Dad said this, and you can’t understand it, so Dad will use an analogy, an analogy that you understand. "

Speaking of this, Zhao Chaogang paused, he thought for a while, and then quickly went on to say: "Ninny, for example, if mother keeps her at home and doesn't let her go out to play, she only lets you Learn this, learn that, and let my daughter practice some music, my daughter, will you like it?"

Zhao Chaogang asked very softly. When Zhao Chaogang saw 8→no 8→wrong 8→little 8→say in her eyes just now, ≮.q≮led≧.≠m’s face was full of confusion, Zhao Chaogang said Knowing that what I said first was too profound for Nannan, how could she understand such profound words at her age, so Zhao Chaogang changed direction very quickly, from what Nannan could understand aspect.

For children, being locked at home by their parents and not letting her go out to play, just doing homework or learning some extracurricular knowledge is definitely the last thing these children want to encounter.Zhao Chaogang is now using this matter as an example, and he believes that the effect will definitely be leveraged!The result was not as expected by Zhao Chaogang. After hearing Zhao Chaogang's words, the girl's eyes were full of panic at this time, and then she walked to Zhao Chaogang's side, and first glanced at Li Liping very carefully.Then he whispered in Zhao Chaogang's ear: "Dad, my daughter doesn't like being locked up by her mother to practice the piano. She wants to play with her father. Daddy, don't let your mother grab her to do these things." Okay? Okay?" Nannan took Zhao Chaogang's hand.Started acting like a baby.

Seeing her acting like a baby to her, Zhao Chaogang was speechless. It seemed that she had misunderstood her. He was just making an analogy, but at this time, she understood that Li Liping really wanted to do this. Therefore, In order not to have to learn extracurricular knowledge, Nannan acted like a baby to Zhao Chaogang.Moreover, in order not to let Li Liping hear that she didn't want to learn extracurricular knowledge, Nannan still spoke in a very low voice.

Seeing this, Zhao Chaogang directly wanted to use it and fainted, hey..., the child's comprehension ability is indeed a bit weak, but this is enough, with this Zhao Chaogang will persuade her daughter to love small animals The above is much easier. "Nanny. Don't worry, if mom really wants you to learn these extracurricular knowledge, dad will intercede for you." Zhao Chaogang first used words to calm her down, and only himself stood on her side first.Only when she waits for her own words will she listen to her. Now Zhao Chaogang's ability to deal with children is getting stronger and stronger.He is already a qualified father.

Of course, what Zhao Chaogang and Nannan said was definitely his sincerity.If Li Liping really arranged for her daughter to learn some piano or other extracurricular knowledge.Zhao Chaogang would indeed stop it.

It's not that Zhao Chaogang doesn't want her daughter to learn more knowledge, but Zhao Chaogang believes that at her five-year-old age, the most important thing is to have fun.

When a child is still young, the biggest thing is to have fun. In this way, when he grows up, when he recalls his childhood, he will have a very good memory in his heart, and this good memory will make this child In the beginning of life, have a better start.

Keeping good childhood memories in my heart will make this child more lively and sunny in mind when he grows up. Correspondingly, he will be more sunny in dealing with people and win others more like.

As a child's parents, if you choose between a sunny, bold, and decent child and a dark, timid, and timid child, all parents will choose the former child.

Therefore, when educating their children, parents need to pay attention to the methods and methods, and cannot let their own temperament do it. If you have your own temperament when educating your children and do not pay attention to methods and methods, then in the end, you Educating children will fail.

There are actually many ways to educate children, but if you really want to educate your children well, first of all, you must establish a correct concept of educating people.

When parents educate their children, they must first establish a correct concept of educating people.Every parent wants their children to be good, this is the nature of being a parent.

What is a good way? Different times and different parents have different standards.

For a long time, many parents have chosen an "elite orientation", "hope their sons will become dragons", "hope their daughters will become phoenixes", and pursue to become "big money", "big officials" and "big wrists".

If you just want your children to be good, and to be good for the rest of your life, or not only for your children to be good for themselves, but also to become people who are beneficial to the society and the people, this hope is right. However, if you treat your children as your own private property, It is not right to hope for the glory of the ancestors or to achieve one's own personal goals.

It cannot be denied that there are indeed some parents who place their regrets and personal ambitions on their children.The correct concept of educating people should be: adhere to people-oriented, and take the healthy growth of children as the foundation.

The so-called healthy growth is to make every aspect develop organically and harmoniously on the basis of inherent human nature, and to become a complete, energetic, individualized, new person with great potential and good at learning and creating.Such a newcomer must first be a self-reliant person, and then a person who contributes to society.

Although educating children is the unshirkable responsibility of parents, this is mainly determined by the social functions of the family. Parents are more of a social responsibility.

Secondly, we must understand the process of becoming a talent and the law of becoming a talent, and we cannot expect to take shortcuts.The growth of everything has its own laws, and the growth of talents also has its inherent laws.

"Genius is 90.00% inspiration, plus [-]% hard work."Only the kind of hard work on the rugged mountain road of science.A tireless and hardworking person.to reach the pinnacle of brilliance.

"Jackie Chan", "Cheng Feng", becoming a "big-official", becoming a "big-money", generally those who achieve great things.That's all there is to it, there are no shortcuts.As the saying goes, "If you want to be rich, you must work hard." This is what it means.

Although everything can be made more interesting as much as possible, and serious things can be accommodated in a relaxed environment, but this is not a shortcut.The so-called shortcut is to master the rules and avoid detours.

Parents have the right to "hope their children will succeed".They also have the right to "help their children become dragons", but they have no right to "force their children to become dragons", and they have no right to regard "Jackie Chan" as the only choice for children.Similarly, parents should not regard "mediocre" as the only choice for their children.

Whether it is "mediocre" or successful, it is the child's own business, and the child should be allowed to choose. Parents cannot impose their own values, success, happiness, and happiness on their children.

Parents have no right to arrange their children's future lifestyle.As a parent in a modern society, we must establish a correct concept of educating people, and we must use the educational method of "respect, communication, guidance, and guidance" to educate children.

I want to educate my children correctly.You also have to respect your child fully.

1. Fully respect the personality of the child
Mr. Tao Xing-zhi, a famous educator in our country, said: "True education is an activity where the heart and the heart reflect each other. Only what comes from the heart can reach the depths of the heart."

From Mr.'s words, it is not difficult for us to understand.Without emotion, all education is out of the question.

How can this be done?The most important one is to respect children and their personality.

Everyone has self-esteem.The desire to be respected is inherent in people.Only by respecting your child can you win the respect of your child.

Parents have the right to manage their children's education.They have the responsibility of guardianship in accordance with the "Minor-Person-Protection-Protection-Law", but they are equal to children in personality.

Parents should treat children equally.In front of children, they should not pretend that they are the biological parents of the children and have the grace to raise the children. They should not show the so-called "dignity" in front of the children, such as "above" and "authority everywhere", and should not be ashamed— — Humiliate children, not to mention corporal punishment.

Children-behavior-behavior-psychology-physics studies have found that corporal punishment of children is actually a harmful behavior.

Children who have often suffered corporal punishment at the age of 1-3 tend to become hypocritical, cold-cold, troublesome, good at telling lies, and have a tendency to violence. Start producing within weeks or months.

The rebellious behavior of children caused by corporal punishment will be manifested in some aspects after two years.

There are usually six situations: children will steal or lie occasionally or often; -force-sexual-behavior; disobedience to school regulations; inability to get along well with teachers, etc.

The researchers used a graph to record two values, namely, the value of corporal punishment by parents to their children and the value of violence after corporal punishment by their children.

Pediatricians found that after two years, these two values ​​became closer and closer, that is, the greater the value of corporal punishment, the greater the value of violence. They called this "dose relationship" or "effect relationship".

Researchers suggest that reducing or even eliminating corporal punishment is extremely beneficial to the healthy growth of children, and it is also conducive to reducing the level of violence in society.

Of course, many people who were physically punished as children did not grow up to be child abusers or depressed people.

It's like people get sick. With proper "treatment" or environmental factors, the sick person will escape the threat of serious illness.

Contrary to frequent corporal punishment of children, babies get more hugs and touches, and when they grow up, they will be calm, calm, and good at regulating themselves.

The secret is that hugging and stroking can cause significant differences in hormone levels in the child's brain, resulting in lower levels of "stress hormones" in the body.

Children grow up destined to survive in stressful environments, and people who are warmed up by parenting behaviors from an early age are better able to cope with the stress of their social environment and avoid those stress-related diseases.

2. Fully respect the personality characteristics of children

If parents want to educate their children well, they must understand their children's age characteristics and personality characteristics.

Age characteristics refer to the level and characteristics of physiological and psychological development at a certain age.If children love games and stories in early childhood, parents can use games and storytelling methods to educate their children, which can achieve twice the result with half the effort.

If you keep talking about the truth.The effect is definitely not good.

Personality traits refer to the personality traits that each child has, for example, some children are extroverted.Lively and active; some are introverted, shy and quiet.therefore.One-size-fits-all educational methods cannot be adopted.

It is very important for parents to learn a little knowledge of child psychology. They should always pay attention to observe and study the personality characteristics of their children, and observe their thoughts, actions and psychological needs from the perspective of children.

In the process of tutoring, parents must not judge their children by "how other people's children are", because each child has its own personality characteristics.

3. Let children have the right to choose

In life, adults often have such and such requirements on children, asking children to do what adults want, but children often have their own opinions.

At this time, if parents force too much.Even forcing the child to obey will not only fail to make the child obedient, but will cause the child to have a rebellious mentality of "confronting the parents", which will affect the child's mental health.

Parents must not impose their own interests on their children, let the children have the right to choose, and let the children know themselves.Affirmation of self-ability can enhance children's self-confidence.

Letting children do what they are most interested in is the best way to stimulate children's internal motivation for conscious learning.Giving children the right to choose will not only allow parents to find better educational methods.And it is an important condition for children to grow up healthily

If you want to educate your children, you have to know how to guide your children.

1. You have to guide your children correctly
As a parent, you must first guide your children with advanced cultural ideas.

For example, educate children to love the motherland, the nation, and the people when they grow up.People with a sense of social responsibility should not only live for themselves, but also learn from people with lofty ideals and pioneers.

For example.Educate children to love labor as the foundation of their lives, not to be dependent and lazy.Only by studying, working hard, and self-improvement can we make continuous progress.etc…….

At present, it is of particular practical significance to educate children to learn the deeds of the Chinese boy Hong Zhan Hui.Secondly, it must be consistent with school education, and family education is very restrictive to school education.

Take learning from Lei-Feng as an example. Teachers let children learn from Lei-Feng to do good deeds. If parents teach in the same way and urge their children to do good deeds, children will strengthen their awareness of learning from Lei-Feng.

If parents say: "Learn from Lei-feng, Lei-feng is a fool." Then the children will be less motivated to learn from Lei-feng.

Schools teach students not to fight or swear at others. If parents also demand this, children will easily develop the habit of being civilized and polite.If the parents say: "Whoever scolds you, you scold him twice, whoever punches you, you punch him twice!" It is not easy for children to develop the habit of being civilized and polite.

Third, parents should guide their children with their good words and deeds.Parents and children have a bond of flesh and blood.Therefore, the most frequent, most direct, and most impressive role models for children can be said to be parents.

Every word, deed, and every action of the parents has a permeating effect on the morality of the child.Parents should set an example for their children with their own good words and deeds through precepts and deeds, so that children can be influenced and grow up healthily.

2. Guide children in a targeted manner
Parents must be targeted in educating their children, and they should not be too restrictive and too rigid for their children.First of all, we must pay attention to standing up with virtue.Caring for children is not only concerned about food, clothing, and housing, but also about thoughts.Grasp the children's ideological problems, educate them to be moral, and cultivate their enthusiasm for life.

The most important thing for a person is to have a passion for life and be self-motivated.The full enthusiasm for life and the perseverance to make progress come from lofty ideological and moral sentiments.Second, observe the child without an adult's point of view.

Some parents observe their children from an adult's point of view, so they don't understand their children. They regard their children's liveliness as naughty, restrict their children from dying, and use simple education methods to form a "generation gap" with their children.

Children are unwilling to talk to their parents, which makes education lose its pertinence. Parents should insist on looking at problems from the perspective of their children.

The third is to focus on key points.In the process of a child's growth, some mistakes are irreversible and will affect the child's life, such as safety issues and health issues.to these questions.Can not be sloppy, must be highly concerned.As for the child's temporary poor grades, unintentional mistakes, etc., you don't have to care too much.

Want to educate children correctly.You have to encourage your children a lot when you get along with them!
1. Timely encouragement

Parents should give timely praise and encouragement to their children for doing good deeds.Be good at discovering children's strengths and abilities, arrange some things that can be done and done well for the children to do, and then praise and affirm the children.

Everyone likes to hear good words, and people need warm words everywhere. A smile or an inspiring compliment from parents at critical moments can often ignite the fire of children's hopes and ideals.Of course, this kind of praise should be sincere and from the heart.

Appropriate affirmation and praise will make the child happy and make the child willing to repeat this good behavior.Play a role of positive reinforcement.

Conversely, false exaggeration and unrealistic praise can make a child uneasy or fake.

Rewards should be timely. For example, if you find that your child has done a good deed, or has done a good job, you should give affirmation immediately.

It's okay to say a heart-warming word, or make an affirmative gesture, but you can't wait for the child to forget about it before praising. Late praise often has little practical meaning.

2. Appropriate encouragement

Parents should not begrudge their praise when their children behave well.The export should be exported, generously rewarded with praise.Generosity does not mean how much money should be spent on buying things for children, but that children's progress should be fully affirmed.

More praise and less criticism is a principle that parents and tutors should adhere to.

Focus on spiritual encouragement.in family education.Parents' praise to their children should be based on spiritual encouragement and supplemented by material rewards.

There are actually many ways of spiritual encouragement, such as going to the park with the children, watching movies, listening to concerts, family travel, holding a family celebration and so on.

The reward should belong to the second place.You can use the rewards to buy toys, stationery, newspapers, and stationery for your children. Of course, you can also buy food and clothes for your children.

The child is not economically independent.Life depends on the support of the parents at home, and it is not a big problem to give children appropriate material rewards.But remember not too much.If there are too many things, children will fall into material satisfaction and enjoyment.Not good for its growth.

Of course, it does not mean that material encouragement cannot be used. If family conditions permit, material encouragement is also a very good way of encouragement. However, when you give material encouragement to your children, you have to make material rewards without making a wish in advance.

Some parents always like to make a wish in advance: "If you score 100 in the midterm exam, I will buy you a dress."...

In fact, it is inappropriate to do so. In the final analysis, parents rewarding their children is a means, a method, not an end.

Whether parents will give or not, and what to give, should be decided temporarily according to the specific situation. Making a wish in advance will easily lead children to develop a vulgar habit of haggling with adults and bargaining, which runs counter to our original intention of praising and rewarding children.

When giving material rewards to children, it must be accompanied by a clear explanation, explaining why the children are rewarded, where the children have made progress, and what they need to do in the future. After gaining material satisfaction, add new motivation spiritually.

3. Don’t protect children’s weaknesses

Every child has advantages and disadvantages, so we must not protect the shortcomings of the children.The shortcoming of children is often that they become shorter and shorter.If the child does something wrong, he should be criticized in time, and it is important to explain to him why it is not good at that time.

Every child is allowed to make mistakes, the key is to learn the ability to be a person and do things from the mistakes, not to repeat the mistakes, and grow up slowly in the mistakes.

If you want to truly educate your children well, you have to know how to let your children fly at a certain time, so that your children can truly grow into useful talents and be able to take the lead in the increasingly intense work s position.

Parents should give their children enough freedom to play to their heart's content, and don't restrict them too much or be too deadly. You can't do this, and you can't do that.

Let children do as much as they can, such as dressing and undressing themselves, learning how to make beds, helping parents with housework, etc. Don't worry about this, don't worry about that.

The story of "cage and bird" is a story that many of our parents often tell their children. The meaning of this story is very profound. Birds live in cages, which is the sorrow of birds. Birds should be allowed to return to nature , that is where the instinct of the bird belongs.

It is a child's nature to love and be able to play, and it is also an important condition for a child's healthy growth.

same.Children are full of curiosity about the world and want to try to do everything.Children's ability to live independently while doing things will be gradually exercised.

Parents must learn to release their children in a timely manner without delay.Let the child fly at the right time without delay, and the child will grow stronger and more assertive than under the wings of parents.on the contrary.Arrangement will cause the loss of the child's ability.

Give your child space to move forward on his own.

In terms of letting children fly, there is such an article, as a parent, it is really necessary to read: Two parents, in order to provide their children with a special space, came up with a good idea called "Small Study Abroad" , this method is both simple and effective.Children are also very welcome.

The so-called "small study abroad" means that the children of the two families live in each other's home for a month or two, and still go to school at the original school.Regardless of such a change in space, the educational effect on children is very prominent.

There are at least four benefits: First, children get exercise.Although the child leaves home for the first time, although he does not live alone, after all, he is surrounded by outsiders and the environment is unfamiliar, so it can also be regarded as the initial exercise of independent living.

The second is to cultivate self-care ability.First time at someone's house.Children pay more attention to the cultivation of self-education ability.They can consciously and strictly demand themselves, rush to do housework, arrange their work and rest schedules very tightly, and work hard to learn to do things they don't know.Although this period of time is not long, but the progress is very fast.

The third is to improve interpersonal skills. When you "study abroad" in a new environment, you are faced with strangers.This is a great opportunity to improve your interpersonal skills.

Children learn how to treat the elders of the family and how to treat new neighbors.How to treat visiting guests, and hear the teachings of elders in your new home.Combined with the original experience of interpersonal communication, I feel that I have a deeper understanding of interpersonal relationships.

The fourth is to deepen the understanding of society.The child has lived in two different families successively. If he can pay attention to observe and think, it can be regarded as a kind of comparative study.

The two families have different cultural backgrounds, and each member has different personalities, concepts and living habits.Analyzing the various differences between the two families can play a role in deepening the understanding of society from a small window.

However, not all parents can pay attention to expanding the space of their children, so that they can exercise their children freely, and some even work hard in the opposite direction...

I have personally seen such mothers in front of the kindergarten near our home. Pay attention, not one, but some, she/they carried their children who are already in the second grade to the place only a few tens of meters away from the school. In the place, because he was afraid of being criticized by the teacher, he reluctantly put it down. After kissing the child, he watched the child go to school.

Believe in such a thing, maybe many people are doing the same thing now.

This/these mothers must love their children very much, but we may all feel clearly how terrible the result of this love will be!Children trained in this way will be able to succeed in the face of increasingly fierce competition in the future?The result is obvious, nine of these children will be the losers of the competition.

I believe that by this time, these parents will regret how wrong their previous behaviors in educating their children are. Unfortunately, it will be too late to regret at that time...

So, give the child a condition and let him exercise by himself.

The practice of cultivating children by pulling seedlings and encouraging them, which violates objective laws, will definitely fail, but a negative and completely "let nature take its course" attitude is not conducive to children's growth.

Follow objective laws, actively create conditions, and let children exercise. This is the correct approach we should take.

Exercise can be divided into physical exercise, mental exercise and comprehensive exercise.To achieve the purpose of exercise, generally you can't completely rely on ready-made conditions, you need to create yourself.

There is such an example. A Chinese scholar who visited relatives in the United States encountered such a thought-provoking incident: One day, he was reading a newspaper at home. Suddenly, someone knocked on the door. A five-year-old girl and a five- or six-year-old girl.

The older child said to him very calmly: "Does your family need a nanny? I'm here to apply for a job."

The scholar asked curiously: "What do you know? Such a young age??????"

The older kid explained: "I'm 9 years old and I've been working for 14 months, here's my worksheet. I can babysit your kid. Help him with his homework, play games with him? ?????"

The older kids observed no intention of hiring her.Going a step further: "You can try me out for a month with no pay. All you need is for you to sign my work record. It will help me find a job in the future."

The scholar pointed to the five or six-year-old child and asked, "Who is she? Do you still want to take care of her?"

Soon, I learned to hear a more surprising answer: "She is my sister. She is also here to find a job. She can use a small stroller to push your child for a walk. Her work is free."

What a lovely child!Their parents should also be said to be amazing and dare to let their children go out into the world.

But we have some parents who not only never thought of creating conditions for their children to exercise, but instead destroyed the exercise conditions created by the school for students. There are too many such things in society.

For example, a school organizes students to go to military training and requires the students to carry their luggage to the car 200 meters away. Some parents actually "protest" to the school: who is responsible for exhausting the children?
at last.This parent is still angrily carrying the student's luggage to the car, while his child walks behind with his bare hands with peace of mind??????
Can such a family be happy in the future?I really don't know what this sweaty parent is thinking!

Give your child a question and let him find the answer for himself.Every child will ask one question after another endlessly, but how can the child get the answer to the question?Experience tells us: Whether a child likes to ask questions is an important factor related to a child's success, and how the child gets the answer is a more important factor related to the child's success.

For example, in the past elementary school textbooks, when describing the process of tadpoles turning into frogs.It is clearly written that the tadpole's tail will fall off automatically at a certain time, and then turn into a frog.

After finishing this lesson.Many students raise tadpoles to see how it grows, especially to see how its tail falls off.

But.After observing it day after day, I did not see the process of the tadpole's tail falling off.However, the tail is indeed missing as well.

The students told the teacher about the situation.The teacher did not deny the students' observation subjectively and simply, but asked them to observe carefully and make detailed records.

So many children observed at the same time, and the result was that they did not find the tail that had fallen off, nor did they find any signs of falling off on the frog's buttocks.On the contrary, some careful students found that the tadpole's tail was slowly retracted.

All the observations came to a consistent conclusion. They told the teacher about the result. With the support of the teacher, they sent the results of these observations to the relevant unit that published the textbook.

Eventually, with the participation of scientists, the textbook error was corrected.During this process, the students developed the spirit of exploration, and the teacher is more worthy of praise, because he supports the students' sense of autonomy.

In the family, parents should also create some methods to cultivate children's intellectual autonomy.

There is a parent who guides his children in the first grade of elementary school to distinguish between right and wrong: He takes the children to school every day to squeeze the bus, and whenever he sees some disputes, he asks the children to observe, and when he gets off the bus, he also puts his own Analyze and tell the parents, why did they cause controversy?Who is right and who is wrong?How should it be solved?

After the child has finished speaking, the parents will give some guidance.

Over time, this child's ability to distinguish right from wrong was better than other children. Based on this, she was very good at persuading children to fight, so she became the small monitor supported by everyone.

Give the child a little difficulty and let him solve it by himself.

There is indeed a truth to the saying "the children of the poor are the first to be in charge of the family".The harsh living environment of a child living in a poor family naturally prepares him for hard training; but now that the living standard has improved, can the child only be a "playboy"?
How to successfully educate children under favorable conditions is indeed a topic that needs to be discussed urgently.Experienced parents try to find ways to set up some difficulties for their children, not limited to the difficulties in life, and let the children solve them, so as to cultivate their abilities and excellent qualities.

One parent did this: when a child wants to buy something, the parents sometimes consciously postpone it for a week before meeting his request. She thinks this can develop his ability to restrain himself.

It is difficult to set up, and it is best to be targeted.Some children live in high-rise buildings, have elevators up and down, and cars when they go out. It seems that there are no outstanding difficulties in life that need them to solve.In response to this situation, a parent came up with a way to set up difficulties and encourage their children to solve them.

He assigned two special homework for the children: one is to go up and down the 12th floor every day, instead of taking the elevator, but insist on walking; the second is to go to and after school every day, instead of taking the car, but insist on walking 5 stops.

What kind of difficulty is set is related to the concept of parents.For example, in the kangaroo country, a Chinese reporter personally encountered an incident that gave people a profound inspiration in terms of education.

One day, the reporter was walking on the street. On this street, there was a small river alongside the street.At this time, the reporter saw a woman from the Kangaroo Country walking with a child in front of her.

Suddenly, the reporter found the naughty kid in front, jumping around, plopping!fell into the creek.Without hesitation, the reporter quickly ran to the river, ready to jump into the river to save the child.

Unexpectedly, the moment the reporter was about to jump, the woman stopped him. The reporter looked at her strangely and asked her to explain. She said seriously, "I want him to climb up by himself."

The reporter saw the child writhe in the water, drank a few sips of water, and finally climbed up, and a thought was churning in his mind: what an amazing mother this is, what a sensible love this is!

Give the child some rights and let him make his own choices.

A child's autonomy is often manifested in his choice, but because the parents are afraid that the child will make a wrong choice, they are always afraid to give the child the right to choose, but if the child is never given the right to choose, he will never learn. Can choose, never have autonomy.

Some parents can give their children the right to choose, but they must provide him with relevant information in advance, help him analyze various possibilities, and educate him to choose by himself, and he must be responsible.

They believe that in this case, even if the choice is wrong, it is a learning opportunity and worthwhile.

For example, there is a parent who wants their child to learn piano, but when they register at the Children's Palace, they find that the child sees a god at the entrance of the dance group and never leaves.

Therefore, the parents respect the child's choice, but require him to be responsible for his own choice, and must persist for a period of time to learn the dance well.

Some parents give their children certain choices in their pocket money.As the child grows older and his ability improves, arrange a reasonable amount of pocket money, but give the child the right to control, and keep the savings for himself.

Doing so can not only develop the child's autonomy, but also improve his economic awareness and financial management ability.

Choice and responsibility are always linked together. If the child's affairs are left to the parents to decide everything, after the decision is made, the child will not think that he is responsible for the decision, because it is not his choice.

If the rights are given to the child, his choice will be more prudent, because he knows that once he makes a choice, he will be responsible for himself, whether it is good or bad, he will bear the consequences.

Every child has its own characteristics, and each child has its own characteristics in different periods. Therefore, when you educate your children, you need to be targeted and not let your own temperament do it.

Zhao Chaogang doesn't have any real biological children of his own now, but now he regards his daughter as his own daughter, so Zhao Chaogang really attaches great importance to educating his daughter.

Even if Pingping is pregnant now, Zhao Chaogang will have his own son soon, but in Zhao Chaogang's thinking, his first child will be Nannan, so Zhao Chaogang is extremely concerned about her education. Pay attention to.