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Seeing that Fang Chen didn't speak, Huang Tingjuan sighed again and lowered her voice and said: "This conversation that Han Shan found was originally told to me by my grandma. My parents died young, and I grew up with my grandma. I remember when I was a child, We were always bullied in the village, so my grandma told me this conversation, and sure enough, within a few years, those families who bullied us all declined."

"Is there such a thing?" Fang Chen was surprised.

"Maybe you think this is a coincidence, let me tell you one more thing." Huang Tingjuan saw Fang Chen's surprised expression and simply told her own experience without reservation.

"When I just graduated, I was working as a copywriter in the company and once received an award. The team leader told me that the upper management did not think I was qualified to receive the award. The team leader applied for the award in many ways and won it for me. So, from then on, From then on, I was extremely grateful to my team leader, my immediate boss, and worked hard to repay my boss for his kindness. However, two years later, by chance, I learned that the opposite was true. I kept my achievements as my own, and it was the upper-level supervisor who saw the clues and gave me this reward. Not only that, many of the setbacks and suppressions I encountered were all arranged by this boss. At that time, I was confused, confused, and unfair. I felt fooled. For a long time, I kept asking myself: Why did she treat me like this?"

Yeah, why does she treat me like this? What Huang Tingjuan said resonated with Fang Chen, and she listened attentively.

"At that time, I rented a small house with my grandma and was under great financial pressure. I could only endure it and continue to work hard under the team leader. At that time, grandma still said this: Just tolerate him and let him , let him, avoid him, be patient with him, respect him, ignore him, stay for a few more years and you can see him."

"Just like that, two years later, the team leader left when he was only in his thirties."

"gone?"

"Well, let's go."

"Where did you go?"

Huang Tingjuan sighed again, "I'm going to another world!"

Oh, Fang Chen suddenly realized it belatedly and scolded himself again for being a pig!

After a moment of silence, Huang Tingjuan continued: "I found out from the team leader's family that the team leader has been suffering from cancer for several years, but she is a very strong person and refuses to tell the public. It may be caused by the illness. At home, Her temper is getting worse and worse. But she still tries hard to maintain a capable image in the workplace. After knowing this, I felt sad for her and glad that I did not confront her, otherwise, I would not forgive myself."

Fang Chen turned his head to look at Huang Tingjuan. Under the reflection of the setting sun, Huang Tingjuan's face seemed to be coated with a light layer of gold, looking so holy and peaceful.

Huang Tingjuan continued: "So, this "bear with him, let him, let him, avoid him, be patient with him, respect him, ignore him" is not self-anaesthesia, but not caring, leaving room for each other, and being tolerant to each other. Everyone just goes his own way."

Fang Chen nodded. Indeed, if you only pursue temporary pleasure, the result will inevitably be a lose-lose situation. And in Huang Tingjuan's case, after knowing the team leader's condition, there will be a huge psychological burden.

Fang Chen secretly thought: No wonder we are so close to each other. It turns out that we are the same person, the exact opposite of Cao Cao.

Cao Cao, the hero of troubled times, has a famous saying: I would rather betray the world than let the world betray me.

Fang Chen and Huang Tingjuan said: I would rather the world betray me, but I will never betray the world.

If such a person has done something wrong to others, his own conscience will not be able to bear it.

Fang Chen couldn't help but sigh: "We are so similar, that's why we always encounter people and things like this!"

Huang Tingjuan said: "It's nothing. Many people have encountered similar situations. Moreover, when you meet such a person, you should thank him."

Under Fang Chen's confused gaze, Huang Tingjuan analyzed in a soft voice:

"Such a person may have physical illness or mental illness. If you have anything to say to a patient, you can only let it go. If such a person is a very healthy person, there are two types. Possibility: One is that this is the boss's way of controlling people. Some people live by playing tricks. He does this not just to you, but to many people;

Another possibility is that your talent makes him jealous. He knows that he will never catch up with you, so he can only use despicable means to cause trouble for you. Don't let you show off.

In either case, you should thank him for teaching you a life lesson. Through this lesson, you can either use poisonous fangs to deal with poisonous fangs like he did, and then there will be another villain in society;

Either you always feel sorry for yourself and eventually become a weakling who is at the mercy of others;

There is a third possibility, which is to work hard to improve your own realm of life and make yourself a noble person who is completely opposite to him. In this way, for you, all his tricks are just sacrificing your own personality and promoting The perfection of your personality.

Shouldn't you thank him? "

She was the Chinese teacher after all, Fang Chen nodded in agreement.

After this chat, some of Fang Chen's complicated thoughts and ideas were gradually sorted out, and he felt a sense of enlightenment. I also had some emotions in my heart.

Life is like a river. It is clear and clear at the beginning, but as it flows forward, it gradually incorporates many things, including flowers and green grass, as well as sand and dirt. But be tolerant, settle the sand as much as possible, don't let it affect your mood, and run to the sea without any worries.

The Yellow River has too much sediment thrown at it from both sides and flows too fast, so it becomes turbid and turbulent. If it had time to flow slowly, it would definitely settle the sediment. Although both sides of the strait have added so much burden to it, it still nourishes the land and life on both sides of the strait without any regrets, and eventually turns disadvantages into advantages, leaving a rich delta at the mouth of the sea - this is the essence of the big river. mind.

The ancients said: "When heaven is about to entrust a great responsibility to this people, it must first harden their resolve...",

Indeed, if each of us wants to do something and spend our time, we will encounter many obstacles, and many of the obstacles are caused by human factors. This is an objective reality. Faced with this objective existence, facing In the changing world, the only thing that can be grasped and controlled is one's own inner world.

“If you want to achieve something, be prepared to take the blame.”

"Don't be surprised by honor or disgrace. Watch the flowers blooming and falling in front of the court. There is no intention of leaving or leaving. Watch the clouds rolling and relaxing in the sky."

People often say: "Learning is like sailing against the current. If you don't advance, you will retreat." In fact, the same is true in life. Only in the face of constant adversities and in a state of constant competition can people continue to think and transcend. All have good aspects. As Zeng Guofan said, "In good times and bad times, I feel that God is kind to me."

"The best is like water, and virtue carries everything", this is how people should be.

"Water is good for all things without fighting, and is hated by everyone." In the end, it can rush towards the sea with unstoppable momentum and achieve the greatest cause.

"If you don't fight, no one in the world can fight with you." No one can take away your cheese. As long as we pursue it and are willing to pay, we will get rich rewards.

Life is both unfair and fair. Work hard, persist in justice and do good deeds, and you will eventually be rewarded.