Kneeling in front of my wife’s tombstone and crying bitterly, I was reborn

When it comes to children’s upbringing, some things are really important, while some things are really not that important.

Some knowledge is learned unconsciously, and some habits are formed unconsciously.

Shen Qiansan doesn't pay much attention to things like knowledge and skills, but he attaches great importance to things like mentality, character and habits.

He hopes that his daughter can have a happy childhood, but he also needs her to be able to pull herself away from play at any time.

At Shen Qiansan's insistence, Li Sisi returned on time.

Looking at his daughter with a lost look on her face, Shen Qiansan was not in a hurry. Some things cannot be cultivated in a day or two, and it requires a gradual process.

He said, "I'll teach you something more fun tomorrow!"

"What's more interesting?" Shen Dandan was immediately attracted. She tilted her neck, opened her eyes wide, and asked curiously.

Shen Qiansan smiled, rubbed her head, and said: "You will know tomorrow, now go watch TV and go to sleep."

"Tell me something!" Shen Dandan shook his trouser leg and said coquettishly.

That delicate and cute look made Shen Qiansan's heart melt, and he said softly: "I will increase the difficulty for you tomorrow."

After thinking about it, I felt that my daughter probably wouldn't understand what I was saying, so I gave an example and said, "The game you played today is just one-sided attack, just like a running race, it's just a simple speed race."

"Tomorrow, let's play war."

"It's just like the war in the TV series, there are offense and defense."

"Fighting, is it fighting the Japanese?" Upon hearing the word "war", Shen Dandan immediately said excitedly.

Shen Qiansan couldn't help but smile. Children of this generation, whether in school or at home, or influenced by film and television dramas, received almost entirely patriotic education. When they heard about war, they naturally thought of fighting the Japanese devils.

What a great atmosphere.

I don’t want there to be so many messy movies and TV shows in the future, which not only destroy the values ​​of adults, but also poison children.

"That's about right!" Shen Qiansan said.

"That's great. Dad, can you tell me about it first?" Shen Dandan said expectantly.

Shen Qiansan touched her head and said, "If I told you first, you would learn it first, and Li Sisi would learn it later. Do you think it would be fair to her during the competition?"

Shen Dandan was stunned for a moment, then shook her head and said, "That's not fair to her."

Shen Qiansan smiled and said: "Then do you still need to learn first?"

"No!" Shen Dandan shook her head decisively and said, "Sisi is my good friend. I want to have a fair competition with her."

Listening to Shen Dandan's words, Luo Rong, Chen Wentao and Chen Shuting, who were standing by, were quite satisfied with her words even though they didn't know what game Shen Qiansan was going to teach her.

Luo Rong said: "Dandan is great. No matter what we do, we must be fair."

Chen Wentao also nodded, thinking that his granddaughter had a good character.

No one expected that Shen Qiansan would say: "No, you can learn now, so that you can start earlier than her. When she is not familiar with the new rules, you will already be familiar with them. This will give you an advantage, and you will have a greater chance of winning her."

Then he took Shen Dandan's hand and said, "Let's go to the study. I will teach you now."

Shen Dandan was surprised and said, "Dad, if I learn it now, wouldn't it be unfair to Sisi?"

Shen Qiansan smiled and said: "There aren't that many fair things in this world, so there's absolutely no need for you to have this kind of psychological burden."

After hearing what Shen Qiansan said, Luo Rong couldn't help but glared at him fiercely and said angrily: "What kind of nonsense did you teach her?"

Chen Wentao also said: "Yes, Qiansan, you can't say these things to Dandan, she is still young."

Even Chen Shuting rolled her eyes at Shen Qiansan, obviously disagreeing with Shen Qiansan's views on education.

Shen Qiansan didn't care and said with a smile: "Dad, Mom, I just told Dandan the truest society. There's nothing wrong with that."

Luo Rong was a teacher. She totally disagreed with Shen Qiansan's words and said, "Children are still a blank slate. They should accept correct ideas from an early age. How can you tell Dandan such nonsense?"

In that era, there was no concept of three views. People only talked about thoughts. Even primary schools had a special course called "Ideology and Morality", which was very pure.

I don’t know when “Ideology and Morality” was changed to “Morality and the Rule of Law”.

Shen Qiansan didn't want to argue with his mother-in-law. This kind of ideological dispute often wouldn't produce any results, so he just took Shen Dandan to the study.

When Shen Dandan was alone in the study, he said, "Dandan, it's true that we should try our best to be fair, but the premise is that you have to know that fairness does not exist in this society itself."

"Doesn't exist?" Shen Dandan asked doubtfully.

Shen Qiansan nodded and gave an example: "Look, you have a car to pick you up at school, a big color TV to watch when you get home, and a fire table next to you when you do your homework. Do your classmates have these?"

Shen Dandan thought about it and then shook her head.

Shen Qiansan said: "Look, if it is fair, everyone should have these, but obviously not everyone has these, so unfairness itself exists."

Shen Dandan didn't know whether she understood or not, and nodded in confusion.

Shen Qiansan continued, "Knowing that this world is unfair, but being able to have a fair heart is the correct outlook on life we ​​should have."

Shen Dandan asked: "What is the outlook on life?"

Shen Qiansan said: "I can't explain this to you right away, but you should remember some of the principles that Dad has told you. When you understand more of them, you will have your own outlook on life."

He knew that his daughter did not understand many things at her age, but as long as you keep repeating the truth to her, it will gradually absorb into her heart over time.

Therefore, he would patiently impart to his daughter what he understands so that she can have her own opinions in the future.

"Okay, I'll remember what Dad said." Shen Dandan said obediently.

Shen Qiansan nodded, "Then I will teach you some 'fighting' skills now."

Shen Dandan was still a little hesitant and said, "But I learned it first, isn't it unfair to Sisi?"

Shen Qiansan smiled and said: "Whether you learn first or later has nothing to do with fairness. The real fairness is that you don't cheat when playing games with her, so will you cheat when playing with her?"

"That definitely won't happen!" Shen Dandan said without hesitation.

Shen Qiansan smiled and said: "That's all, let's get started!"