Chapter 561: Change yourself

During this period, there was one thing that remained unsaid, which was that Xiao Jin met Tianye two days before the end of the Spring Festival holiday.

Of course Tian Ye's hometown is not in Shanghai, but he came back early. What's going on?

There's obviously something going on!

Of course, it was not just Ye Ye who was bumped into by Xiao Jin, but also another one, Shi Xueqing. It was precisely because of her appearance that Xiao Jin had an opportunity to give him guidance.

If you ask which group has the most single people?

They probably belong to the financial industry. They generally have higher incomes, but they are still single due to various reasons.

As soon as Xiao Jin joined the financial industry, he won the favor of Fang Siyu, and the two "married according to the decree." Therefore, Xiao Jin had enough "qualifications" to guide the two of them. Moreover, he also successfully matched Shi Xueqing's Sister.

On the night when Xiao Jin bumped into him, Ye Ye took the initiative to call Xiao Jin. For this reason, Xiao Jin made an exception and took Ye Ye back to his home in Tangchen Yipin. There was no other way. There were too few trading shops open now. Xiao Jin A family dinner was prepared for the field.

It was said to be a family dinner, but Xiao Jin actually cooked it himself. Fang Siyu had a big belly, so Xiao Jin certainly couldn't bear it, and the nanny wouldn't be back for another two days.

When it comes to men marrying women, there are naturally many different opinions. This is also Xiao Jin's first lesson for Tianye, to popularize basic knowledge.

Shi Xueqing was pestering Xiao Jin at the beginning, but Xiao Jin transferred her to the field. According to normal analysis, the two of them have crossed paths, and with Shi Xueqing's personality, haha, it is really possible for the two of them to get together.

If the two become friends, it will actually be beneficial to each other in the future. It is certain that it will be of great help to Ye Ye. However, if Shi Xueqing wants to get more, Ye Ye needs to pay more.

So, for Ye Ye, as a foreigner who wants to gain a foothold in Shanghai, it is certainly a good thing to be able to marry a rich second-generation daughter, and a super rich second generation, as long as Ye Ye can manage it.

However, Xiao Jin still has to teach Tian Ye this lesson. The conditions at Tian Ye's family are good, but for people in Shanghai, all parts of the country, except Shanghai, are rural areas. No matter how powerful you are in the countryside, you are still in the countryside. Therefore, what Xiao Jin wants to say to Tian Ye is that they are well matched.

The so-called "well-matched" means that the social status and economic situation of the man and the woman or both families are similar, and they are suitable for marriage. The well-matched family is not only the material level, but also the spiritual level. According to historical experience, the well-matched family is the first factor for a successful marriage.

A person's background and family of origin not only determine his or her social status and economic status, but also determine his or her values, cognition, way of thinking, way of doing things, structure, etc., and these above factors are even more important. It is an important factor affecting the success of a marriage.

Facts have proved that if the growth environment of two people is too different, the happiness index after marriage will not be very high. The cognitive gap formed by the huge difference in growth environment will gradually be exposed after marriage.

There is still a big gap between Tian Ye and Shi Xueqing. If Tian Ye cannot develop in Evergrande Securities, he will have to show his strength in other industries. After all, he can marry the youngest daughter of one of the top rich men in Shanghai. Not everyone has this luck.

Unlike Xiao Jin, Fang Siyu's home is much better than his hometown in Guizhou, but unfortunately, Xiao Jin is a bug and an exception, so it doesn't matter.

Including Shi Yuzhen and He Ping. Although He Ping's family background is not as prominent as the Shi family, it is still a middle-to-rich family. If he can get along with Shi Xueqing, it is okay. After all, not everyone is the second generation of the rich.

Then, Tianye also has the possibility of success. Therefore, this is a perfect match. If we talk about the gap at a deeper level, the growth experience of the two is very different. However, it is not impossible to make up for it.

Another one is to trust your parents’ judgment.

All parents in the world love their children, and parents are the people who love us most in the world.

Young friends must not feel that their parents are old and cannot keep up with the times.

Parents know best what is going on with their children and what "goods" they are.

Parents have experienced more vicissitudes of life and have a deeper understanding of marriage, family, and love than young people. Many young people, due to their shallow social experience, are often attracted to a certain characteristic of the other person, while ignoring many other factors. This leads to disagreements with parents, or even being driven by hormones and acting on impulse.

A large number of family life stories prove that those who go against the will of their parents and insist on willful marriages rarely have high happiness index after marriage.

The underlying logic behind this is that love is short-lived, and novelty and hormones cannot sustain a marriage.

Another point is that young people should communicate with their parents in a timely manner, dare to express their true inner thoughts to their parents, and listen more to and respect their parents' opinions.

Even if Tian Ye and Shi Xueqing have a deeper relationship, Tian Ye still needs to seek the opinions of his parents. Of course, the same goes for Shi Xueqing. If his father Shi Da disagrees, their future will not be the same. happy.

Another thing is to give yourself reasonable expectations.

At present, many older single young people or middle-aged people do not give themselves a reasonable expected valuation.

Everyone doesn’t want to wrong themselves, and so does the person you’re looking for.

Try to think about: your income, height, body shape, appearance, age, physical condition, family background, education level, existing material possessions, job stability, your overall ability, future development space, etc.

Evaluate yourself calmly and never feel good about yourself. Whether your understanding of the world needs to be examined calmly.

The marriage market is not a wishing well. Every participant is very rational and realistic, pursuing profit and seeing the value they can bring to the other party.

Xiao Jin said to Tian Ye: "If the goal you have pursued does not accept you in the end, then you should evaluate yourself calmly and give yourself a reasonable valuation and expectations. Think about what you can bring to the other party. ?What we want is obtained in exchange for the value that we can bring to others. Don't be fooled by the people around you saying "It's because your conditions are too good". If your conditions are good enough, you will definitely not be single anymore. , among those children from wealthy families, which one is single and can’t find a partner?”

Whether Shi Xueqing found Tian Ye on a whim, the answer must be, then whether the future of the two can be maintained depends more on Tian Tian himself.

Of course, Tian Ye must also try to change himself, including Shi Xueqing. Both parties must have this awareness.

None of us can change the world, or even the environment we live in. The only one who can change is ourselves. If you don’t have willful capital, which most people don’t, then you should try to change yourself.

To change yourself, you must first have the courage to face and accept your true self, see your shortcomings and deficiencies, and dare to face those voices that deny yourself. Although those voices are harsh, they may be real voices, and they are the reason why many people around you People see themselves, but they are not aware of it yet.

Don't be a person who is too individual. Not to mention that it is not easy to find a partner for a person who is too individual. If you find a partner, you will not be happy after marriage. Marriage is a process of mutual acceptance. Don't expect too much from the other party to accept you too much.

In addition, be positive, associate more with outstanding and motivated people, read more, don’t be cognitively closed, and strive to make yourself better and improve your knowledge and value.If you bloom, the breeze will come.

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