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"Uncle, you are so miserable." Xie Simin pitied Qin Feng.

"What I want to say is not how miserable I am, I just want you to understand the helplessness in the relationship. You keep telling me that you love me, girl, do you know what love is?" Qin Feng asked Xie Simin.

"Love... Isn't love just liking someone?"

"It's accurate, but it's not accurate. Love is liking, or the premise of love is liking, but it's not just liking. It's like you go to the mall and see a beautiful dress, you like it very much, so you spend your money One month's living expenses, I would rather eat instant noodles for the next month, but also buy it and take it home, and keep it as my own, this is what I like."

"So it's love?" Xie Simin asked.

"Love, love is that you like this dress very much, you like it very much, but you know that this dress is not suitable for you, the style and color are not suitable for you, and you can't show the beauty of this dress when you wear it. It will ruin the dress. So you will decisively give up buying this dress, and would rather take a second look when passing by the store every day."

"Of course, this metaphor is not accurate. Clothes are not people. They have no emotions, but the meaning is the same. Like is a kind of preference, while love is an emotion. Like is an animal instinct, just like children are born to like toys, Women are born to like clothes, men are born to like beautiful women, like to want to possess, this is a desire, a request."

"And love is the kind of sacrifice that I am willing to give everything for as long as he can live well. Love is a kind of emotional sublimation. Therefore, love is sacrifice, not possession."

"Girl, tell me now, do you really love me?" Qin Feng asked Xie Simin.

"I...I...I don't know." Xie Simin was confused by Qin Feng's words.

"You may like me. This stems from the fact that you first fell in love, and I happened to appear in your world at the age when you first fell in love, so you have a good impression of me. If it wasn't me who appeared in your world at that time, It's another man that you don't hate so much, and you will also have a good impression of him." Qin Feng tried to persuade Xie Simin.

"No, it's not like that, Qin Feng, don't try to subvert my cognition, I'm already 21 this year, although I still don't understand the difference between love and liking, I know very well whether I like you or not." Xie Simin said coldly Said coldly, she was very angry.

"Okay, let me put it another way. I won't discuss the topic of love and liking anymore. Let me talk about my three relationship experiences now. After listening to what I said, you should have some insights."

"My first relationship was with my girlfriend from college. Let me ask you a question. Why when we were in college, both of us could desperately swear that we would stay together for the rest of our lives no matter whether the other was poor or rich. But once we stepped into society , will it change completely immediately?"

"Because she's a green tea whore." Xie Simin said harshly.

Qin Feng shook his head and said: "Her nature is not bad. If her nature was so bad, she would not have chosen to be with me, a poor boy. There are many rich second generations chasing her in school. The reason is, It is because schools and society are two completely different environments, which is the difference between ideal and reality.”

"Ideals can be beautiful, just like the simple and beautiful world of school, but once they enter the society, everything is cruel, and there will no longer be such a beautiful simplicity. In the face of reality, ideals are worthless, because there are many more Ideals are more important than love, such as survival."

"The incompatibility between the two of us lies in the fact that you haven't entered the society, and you haven't experienced the cruelty of society. You are still too innocent and live in ideals. When you enter the society, you will find that, in fact, your love for me This liking is nothing at all, and you will realize that it is impossible and inappropriate between you and me."

"Let me talk about my second relationship again. The second relationship is with Zhou Qian. You know something about this relationship. I love Zhou Qian very much. She loves me and I love her. I love her to death. I and her They love each other so much, why even if they got married in the end, the marriage didn't survive half a year?"

"This is because of the difference in values ​​and worldviews between me and her, and also because of personality incompatibility. A person's values ​​and worldview are closely related to the environment in which he has lived since he was a child. Two people with completely different living environments will have completely different perceptions of the world. It's different, two people with different views can love each other, but they can't live together, I have a deep understanding of this."

"Girl, do you think we have the same three views? Although the age difference between you and me is not so terrifying, in fact, you and I are obviously two generations away. My lifestyle and understanding of the world are closer to yours. Parents' era."

"You like to drink coke, I like to drink tea, you like nightlife and excitement, I like quietness and reading, you can stay up at night and wake up in the morning, but I am used to going to bed early and getting up early, you like freshness and excitement, and I like the same life every day..."

"The music you like is the so-called hip-hop rap, and I feel sick when I look at these people, you like to follow entertainment stars, and I don't know any of them, I don't even watch TV, I like to read newspapers and news .”