Reading as a god

Chapter 166 "The Art of Love"

Sitting on the plane returning from Shanghai to Beijing, Zhang Shan was still reading.

The book he was reading was "The Art of Love". Zhang Shan remembered that this book was mentioned by Gu Youyou when he was pressing the lawn at the Shuimu playground.

"The Art of Loving" is a psychological work created by German-American social psychologist Erich Fromm, first published in 1956.

As a book that is close to 60 years old but still enduring, it must have its charm.

Although I had high psychological expectations for this book in my heart, Zhang Shan was shocked when I opened the book.

this?This sentence sums it up so well!

Zhang Shan feels that it is not an exaggeration for her to directly read and recite the full text as a love rookie~
"Love can only arise between two persons who have both emerged from the circle of their existence and united with each other, and at the same time each of them can experience himself out of the center of himself. Only this centered experience is human. Reality is life and the foundation of love."

"There is only one proof of the existence of love: the depth of the connection between the two parties and the vitality and vitality in each loved one. This is the only result of love that we can see."

"Efforts to love often lead to a painful feeling: I am loved because I make the other person happy, not because I want to--in the end, I am not loved, but I am loved. It's just necessary."

"If a woman tells us she loves flowers, and we find out she forgot to water them, we don't believe her. Love is an active concern for life and the growth of what we love. Without this positive concern, then it's just an emotion, not love."

"..."

"Concern and caring also include another aspect of love, which is conscientiousness. Today, conscientiousness is often understood as an obligation, something imposed from the outside. But the original meaning of the word conscientiousness is a fully conscious action, which is My answer to the expressed or unexpressed wishes of another being. 'Responsibility' means being able and ready to give an answer to those wishes. If love does not have a third element: respect, then responsibility can easily become Domination and enslavement of others. Respect is not fear of the other. Respect comes from the ability to look at the other person for what they are and recognize his unique personality. Respect is about striving to enable the other person to grow and develop himself, so respect is never exploitative Meaning. I hope that a person I love should grow and develop in his own way and for himself, instead of serving me. If I love another person, I should feel one with him and accept him for who he is, Instead of asking him to be what I want him to be, so that I can use him as an object. Only when I achieve independence by myself and walk my own way independently without outside support, that is, without wanting to control and use others, Only in this way is respect for the other person possible. Love can only be found on the basis of freedom...”

"What does a person give to another person? He gives himself, his most precious thing, his life. But this does not necessarily mean that he has to sacrifice his life for others - it means that he He gave to others what was living in him; he gave to others his joy, his interest, his understanding, his knowledge, his humor, his sorrow - in short, he gave to others his Everything that is alive in him. In his giving, he enriches others; by enhancing his own sense of life, he also enhances the sense of life of others. He does not give in order to receive; giving is in itself an extraordinary pleasure. But in his giving, he inevitably awakens something in the other, and what is awakened returns to himself; in true giving, he cannot help but receive what is returned from the other. Giving. In itself involves making the other a giver too, so that both of them can share in the joy they awaken in life.”

"..."

She already has an excellent level of memory ability, and the content of this book is not very long, Zhang Shan quickly memorized this book~
The content of the book is not difficult to understand. In the book "The Art of Love", Fromm believes that love is not a kind of emotion that has nothing to do with people's maturity and only needs to be devoted to the body and mind.

Every attempt to love will fail without the ability to love others, without the ability to love others truly humbly, courageously, sincerely and disciplinedly If you love others, then people will never be satisfied in their own love life.

Fromm further proposed that love is an art, requiring those who want to master this art to have the knowledge and effort in this area.

Love in this book is not just a narrow love between men and women, nor can it be obtained by honing and improving skills.

Love is the manifestation of personality as a whole. To develop the ability to love, one needs to work hard to develop one's personality and move towards beneficial goals.

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Maybe it's a demonstration~
At this time, Luo Changhui, who was sitting near Mr. Zhang, was also reading a book, but what he was reading was "Very Cold, Unpopular Knowledge" (there is this book)

Looking sideways, Zhang Shan is actually watching "The Art of Love"~
Luo Changhui scoffed immediately~
Zhang Shan understands Jill's art~
It's all about treating women as playthings.

But then again, does Mr. Zhang really not know how to love?

Zhang Shan seems to be able to guarantee the sense of security that women always care about.

After she complained to Wu Miao several times, Zhang Shan immediately stopped looking for that vixen.

Zhang Shan also directly gave her the key to the house where Luo and he slept for the first time~
Although there is no intention of transferring the ownership to her, even the right of residence is enough.

That's three flat floors connected together, and any calligraphy and paintings inside are priceless~
It's not just these material guarantees that Zhang Shan has done very well.

Women crave the support of their other half for their careers.

Zhang Zong's actions in this regard can be regarded as a model among men.

Zhang Shan knew her pursuit of career, so she entrusted her with the responsibility of projects worth tens of millions of dollars~
Isn't this the art of love~
Putting aside the high-end manipulation of art, Zhang Zongai's technique is even more direct~
The most important thing is that Mr. Zhang's bug ideas are endless.

Before boarding the plane, Zhang Shan jokingly said that he would also fly a private jet in the future~
How could Luo Changhui not know what Zhang Shan was up to, she couldn't help but blushed~
Speaking of which, Zhang Shan didn't do anything on the super yacht to get the card, it's really unbelievable.

Could it be because~~
(End of this chapter)